Reality Therapy

What is Reality therapy?

Reality therapy operates on the fundamental idea that our meaningful conscious actions are deliberate choices made to fulfill our internal needs at any given moment. These needs include survival, love and belonging, power and self-worth, as well as fun and freedom. When these needs are satisfied, an individual is considered to be mentally and emotionally balanced, experiencing genuine happiness. However, if these needs are unfulfilled or met in harmful ways, temporary pleasure may be attained, but genuine happiness remains elusive. Reality theory is also occasionally known as Choice theory because it encourages individuals to acknowledge that they often possess more control over their lives than they realise. (Wubbolding R 2017, Counselling with Reality Therapy, Taylor & Francis Group, London

When is Reality therapy used?

Reality therapy is used in various situations where individuals are facing challenges or seeking personal growth. It can be effective for addressing issues such as relationship conflicts, addiction, depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. It is particularly useful when individuals want to take an active role in their own personal development and are motivated to make positive changes in their lives.

What to expect in Reality therapy sessions

Collaborative Relationship: In Reality therapy, the psychologist establishes a trusting and collaborative relationship with the client. They provide a safe space where individuals can openly express their thoughts and feelings without judgment.

Identifying Goals and Needs: Together with your psychologist, you will identify your goals, desires, and needs. The focus is on what you want to achieve and how to align your behaviors and choices with your desired outcomes.

Exploring Choices and Behaviours: Reality therapy encourages self-reflection and exploration of the choices and behaviors that have led to current difficulties. Your psychologist will help you gain insight into the consequences of your actions and explore alternative choices that can lead to more positive outcomes.

Developing Effective Strategies: Your psychologist will support you in developing practical and effective strategies to meet your needs and goals. These strategies may involve developing new skills, improving communication, setting boundaries, or problem-solving techniques.

Taking Personal Responsibility: Reality therapy emphasises personal responsibility and accountability for your actions. Your psychologist will encourage you to take ownership of your choices, behaviors, and how they impact your life and relationships.

Regular Review and Feedback: Throughout the therapy process, the psychologist will provide regular feedback, review progress, and make adjustments as needed. This helps to ensure that you stay on track with your goals and make any necessary modifications to your strategies.

Remember, therapy is personalised to your unique needs and experiences. Your psychologist will adapt the approach to ensure it is respectful, empowering, and supportive of your therapeutic journey.

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