Divorce has become common in our culture, with almost half of all marriages ending with divorce. It can be a trying time for an entire family, but it can be hard to navigate divorce without some guidelines. Emotions are high, there is an increase in stress and it is the beginning of a major lifestyle transition for everyone involved. Ending a marriage is rarely a simple or straightforward process. Divorce typically unfolds in four main stages, each with its own emotional challenges and practical considerations.
The first stage is the decision to divorce
This is often the most difficult and painful part, as one or both spouses come to the realisation that their marriage cannot be salvaged. Intense feelings of sadness, anger, and uncertainty are common as the reality of divorce sets in. Seeking counsel from a psychologist or trusted confidants can provide much-needed support during this tumultuous time.
The second stage involves the actual legal proceedings
This is where the practical details of the divorce are hashed out, such as the division of assets, child custody arrangements, and financial support. This can be a highly contentious period as the two parties work to protect their own interests.
The third stage is the emotional adjustment to post-divorce life
Even in amicable splits, the sense of loss and major life upheaval can be overwhelming. Newly single individuals must redefine their identity, rebuild their social network, and learn to live independently again. Counselling and support groups can be invaluable resources during this transitional period.
The fourth and final stage is the establishment of a ‘new normal.’
This is when the divorced individuals begin to embrace their changed circumstances and look toward the future with renewed hope. They may forge meaningful relationships, embark on new careers, or achieve personal growth that was not possible within the confines of their former marriage. While the early stages of divorce are undoubtedly painful, this final phase represents the opportunity to start the next chapter of one’s life.
Going through a divorce can be an extraordinarily difficult and painful experience. As you navigate the various stages, try to approach yourself with patience and understanding. In the initial decision-making phase, honour the complex mix of emotions you’re feeling. Don’t hesitate to seek counsel from a psychologist or trusted friends and family who can provide a supportive ear. Throughout the adjustment period, be gentle with yourself – recovery is not a linear journey. Lean on loved ones and consider joining a divorce support group for camaraderie. Most importantly, embrace the opportunity to redefine your life in a way that serves you. With self-compassion, you can emerge from this transition with resilience and hope.
Divorce is a complicated time and having someone to help guide you through the process can be helpful. To book in a time to speak to a psychologist call us on (02) 6262 6157 or book an appointment online.
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